The TK, which stands for Takate Kote (pronounced ‘teh-cart-ay coe-tay’), is a shibari tie that encompasses the chest and binds the arms behind the back.
If you’ve ever seen any shibari pics online (which I’m assuming you have, you utter perv!) then you probably would have seen the TK.
It’s sometimes called the ‘box tie’.
Here are seven reasons why it’s my favourite tie and why you should learn it too!
And before I go any further, a big thank you to the lovely friend of mine who posed for these photos.
Here we go…
1 – Firstly, doesn’t it look pretty
The front patterns neatly cross over each other making gorgeous little shapes. From the back the knots are tucked away neatly with a big circle knot in the middle.
2 – Versatility
You’ve now tied a TK on someone. Now what? You can lay them down on their front, on their back, make them kneel, make them stand… all whilst remaining tied.
3 – The foundation for more elaborate ties
Want to do more rope? Now you can do a hip harness. You can do a Fotomono (which is the tie when the leg is tied to itself. Give it a Google and you’ll see what I mean. Do come back and finish reading this.) and it serves as a great basis for…
4 – Suspension
As beautiful as rope suspensions are, please, please, please dont even attempt suspending someone without learning from someone who knows what they’re doing!
If you decide to take shabari lessons and you get to the stage where you can safely do suspension then you’ll find the TK serves as a great central point to attach the suspension lines.
5 – Face to face
If you’re doing more intimate rope you’ll find that the person you’re tying is stood up whilst you’re also standing. Your faces get very close whilst it’s going on. Great for teasing!
6 – You need a partner
it is one of the few ties that you can’t practice on yourself. It’s great reason to get kinky with someone “I just want to practice doing a TK!” (Or you can do it just for fun… whatever’s best for you!)
7 – You’re hands are pretty free
Whilst it might look like the wrists are tied tightly behind the back. It really is not the case. The wrists rest in a little loop, which can be quite loose if necessary. There’s a little drawstring incorporated into the design of the TK. You can just pull it and the arms are free.
Want to learn the TK?
It’s not too hard to learn but it will take a fair bit of practice.
I learnt from a variety of sources. Firstly, I had friends who knew it and they showed me.
Then I found a video on YouTube and just stuck with that one video. I just did everything it said.
I’ve just looked over on YouTube and that video has long since gone. If you type in ‘shibari TK’ then you’ll find a selection of free tutorials to choose from.
I also practiced at home on my bed frame. Fortunately the frame had four vertical bars, the outer two to emulate the edges of the arms, the inner two acted as the inside of the arms. The horizontal bar acted like the wrists.
(I know I said you need a partner and now I’m saying you can do it on your bedframe. I want to encourage you to get out there! Meet a real person to tie with. I did a bit of post on how to meet someone right here.
I practiced over and over and over and over again!
And then again.
And then one more time
And then again.
After only a few weeks, I had learnt this beautiful tie.
When you’re tying, keep some EMT shears right by you. If the person you’re tying feels any serious pain or discomfort then just cut the rope and end the scene.
You can buy EMT Shears here.
Please play safe!
One last thing…
A few weeks ago I practiced on a friend of mine for the first time in well over three years. I was quite rusty but I still remember it. (Just!)
So if I can do it after all these years then you definitely can learn it too.
Or you can have someone do it to you… which is just as fun!
Let me know how you got on.